One of my favourite quotes is by Theodore Roosevelf, it says
“Comparison is the thief of Joy”
The older I get the more apparent this quote becomes. I think we’ve all been there where we see what others have and we start to compare. For example, I’m in my final year of university (wow time flies) and for me, I think the educational system is one of the most competitive systems out there. I understand that everyone wants to do well (as they should), but there is this general consensus that says for me to succeed you must not. *ERROR*
This is a toxic mindset as you are doing more damage to yourself than anyone else. Comparison really is a thief of joy because once you get the ball rolling you realise that there will always be someone who is bigger and better than you and you forget to celebrate what you have. Comparison/competition also opens the door to envy, bitterness and jealousy – things we don’t want to have permanent residence in our lives. Let’s be honest, comparison is a masquerade for a jealous heart.
So a few tips for getting out if this pitfall
- Identify it!
If you do get caught up in competition and comparison, call it out and don’t bury it. Be honest with yourself/check yourself, then go back tip no.1. Comparison is sneaky – it’s not just wanting what others have, it can make them want what you have – you know you’re living a life of comparison/competition if you share your success to make others jealous also. It’s a cycle guys 😦
- LOVE, LOVE, LOVE
Love who God created you to be and love yourself enough to know that there is only one you and there is no need to compare yourself to others. Once you love yourself, it is easier to love others celebrate with them. If you can’t honestly celebrate with others with no shade, you need to check yourself.
- Be thankful
Gratitude humbles us and opens our hearts to be content with what we have. Thanksgiving is a powerful weapon to have.
We are no perfect, we’re living in an Instagram generation where everyone is posting pictures of their amazing filtered life etc…This is a lesson I’m still in the process of learning but there is grace.
In summary, God doesn’t make mistakes, so love your unique and authentic self!